renegade
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I turned 21 in prison doing life without parole, no one could steer me right but mama tried!
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Post by renegade on Aug 31, 2007 11:41:53 GMT -6
ok here's the deal... I am of course having issues with a woman, and being a man i just can't really relate nor if i could i probably wouldn't understand her at all, but i do love her and I know there are verses in the bible about what a man is to do for his wife and vise versa.... does anyone out there know these and can post them for me?
Thanks Renegade
PS revkag i am counting on you for this one!
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Post by sharkbait98 on Aug 31, 2007 11:57:34 GMT -6
I just got married, I sure did study those before getting married. There are several web sites out there that try to break down many of the versus. May I recommend reading the following. www.bible.ca/marriage/husbands.htmCheck out the link saying "The Husband's Responsibility to his wife & the bible" I just got married at the end of May, so I am not an expert, but coming from a newly wed man's point of view. I could talk to you for hours about this. Marriage is something I hold dearly in my heart If you boil it all down, love your wife and cherish her, and when I say love, I mean "love". Love doesnt always mean that you are going to feel great and wonderful. Love is putting your wife's needs in front of your own. Jesus First, Wife Second, then you.
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Post by ricebird on Aug 31, 2007 16:27:27 GMT -6
"Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her." Ephesians 5:25
Kuddos, to you for searching out Scripture. Men have a huge responsibility in being the Spiritual leader of our marriages and homes. I'm Rev. Kag can elaborate..............
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Post by ricebird on Aug 31, 2007 16:30:26 GMT -6
;)Found another one....
Ephesians 4:32 "Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you."
This is fun, I wish we had more activity on this thread.
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Post by thatsme03 on Sept 4, 2007 14:54:01 GMT -6
You are a man, more than likely you are looking for the one that says women obey your husbands......haha...just kidding!
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revkag
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Post by revkag on Sept 4, 2007 16:18:25 GMT -6
Sorry to be late in responding... didn't notice the new post until recently.... Ephesians 4 & 5, which have been posted are good passages for study... Check out the book "His Needs, Her Needs" by Williard Harley for a good reference on meeting the needs of each other in a marriage... Even if you aren't married it is still a good resource to know the different "needs" of a man and a woman...
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renegade
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Post by renegade on Sept 4, 2007 21:52:36 GMT -6
I am trying to understand and give and do everything i am told, however a bombshell was dropped last night and i know how i feel about it but i am confused on what to do... See her "friend" whom i have never met asked her and her best friend to go to a comedy show in louisiana and then gamble and he will pay for it all... this guy is 40 and she is 22... seems wierd to me.... she said she wouldn't go without her bestfriend, but no mention of me. I voiced my concern but told her to go have fun... but i let her know that i was confused why he didn't ask about me, let alone why he would even ask her since he knows about me. She tells me that I am being overprotective and not understanding... If i tell her not to go i am being controling... i don't want to sound jelous either but i don't think she understands my concerns.... I even tried putting her in my shoes and no luck.... she said well if you asked a friend you wouldn't ask their boyfriend... and i said the only reason i wouldn't involve their boyfriend is if i wanted to get her alone and hide it from her boyfriend.... in other words i would have other intentions..... i tried to explain that i do want her to go and have fun but it all seems fishy to me and she doesn't understand my reasoning and was kinda annoyed by my concern..... what do i do.... i asked her if i could atleast meet the guy to which she replied sure but i think that will just cause an arguement and you wouldn't want me to go.... i asked why she would say that and she said i just feel that way.... well if you feel that i wouldn't want you to go why would you... wouldn't you respect my feelings... that is what being my partner is isn't it? Any suggestions? I realized that turning to God and faith is what i needed to turn my life around but i am starting to believe i am not the issue with the relationship, it is more or less her viewpoints and how with her it's her way or the highway....
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rat
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Post by rat on Sept 4, 2007 23:12:38 GMT -6
If Moma ain't happy... ! ain't no-body happy.. ! rat: chapter 1 ver 1
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Post by ~WineMe~DineMe~69 on Sept 5, 2007 2:40:09 GMT -6
doesn't sound to good, there's to many fish in the sea to put up with that..................doesn't sound to mature on her part which could be blessing in disguise, get out while you can
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Post by thatsme03 on Sept 5, 2007 6:02:09 GMT -6
Go with your instinct. If it sounds fishy you can bet something isnt right. Sounds like she should be the one seeking out spiritual guidance.
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yippee
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Post by yippee on Sept 5, 2007 8:05:37 GMT -6
i know there are 2 sides to everything, but from what you posted - it sound like she still wants to play.
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revkag
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Post by revkag on Sept 5, 2007 8:42:58 GMT -6
Are you married? Living together? Boy friend - girl friend? I agree it doesn't sound like she is committed to the relationship - friendship, etc...
Is your location San Marcos? If so, I assume that you are at TSU. I would suggest going to the Counseling Center on campus or look for a Samaritan Counseling Center through one of the churches in the area... Most of them have sliding fee schedules which you might be able to afford. If money is an object, check out some of the churches to see if they have staff that does pastoral counseling...
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